Congratulations to your sister. You know she’s been waiting for this day her whole life, and there’s no reason why you shouldn’t be happy for her. The only problem is that the last thing you want to do is go to her wedding while feeling jealous and resentful.
Also, Emotional sister quotes can help you to deal with your sister’s wedding day, even if you’re not the maid of honor. But don’t worry. It’s not as hard as it sounds, here are four steps you can take:
It’s your sister’s wedding. You should be happy for her. You should support her and be proud of her. She found someone who loves her, and you should be glad that they will spend their lives together in holy matrimony.
It can be a lot easier said than done, but try to keep this positive mindset when dealing with your sister’s wedding day as it will help make the experience more enjoyable for everyone involved.
Don’t hold back.
Don’t be afraid to express your feelings. You are the only person who knows what you need, and if you keep it all inside, you’ll end up bursting and regretting it later on. If there’s something that bothers or upsets you, let her know. It might even help her understand why things are difficult for you now more than ever before (and maybe she’ll take some steps to fix those things).
Instead of hiding behind a facade of civility and politeness, try telling your sister how excited, or upset, you are about the wedding plans so far. Be honest with yourself: If one of their ideas bothers or scares you, let them know why it does so. They will probably appreciate having a better idea of where your head is at these days instead of just assuming that everything is fine between the two of them when it isn’t exactly true.
Don’t try to get even. Don’t ruin your sister’s wedding. You won’t be able to get back at her for something she did, so don’t try to steal her boyfriend or sabotage the wedding.
It’s tempting to think that if you’re going to have all these feelings of sadness and jealousy, then you should do something about it. But that can only lead down a dark path of revenge and destruction, not exactly the best way to handle things.
Now, it’s important to remember that you don’t need a wedding of your own. It’s okay for you to be happy for your sister, she’s worked hard and she deserves a nice day. Instead of being jealous, here are some other things you can do:
- Be supportive. Your sister will be more likely to get through the planning if you’re there for her with words of encouragement instead of making her feel bad about her decisions regarding food or seating arrangements.
- Focus on yourself. Remember that this isn’t about you and what kind of wedding would make YOU happy; it’s all about what makes your sister happy. You should want nothing more than for her to have an amazing time on her day.
If you’re feeling up to it, offer to help with the wedding planning. Even if it’s just a few simple tasks like picking out flowers or buying some of the decors, it’s still important to be helpful and show your sister that you care. If you’re not ready for this, don’t fret, just let your sister know that you appreciate her asking and will happily pitch in when you’re able.
You may not have been asked to plan any part of her wedding, but even so: Don’t be a pain about it. Be as supportive as possible and try not to complain or get upset by how much time she is spending on things that don’t directly involve you (e.g., choosing invitations instead of hanging out with friends).
You’re probably wondering why I’m telling you to be happy for your sister. You’ve got a lot going on in your life and don’t see how being happy for her is possible. Maybe you’re stressed because of work or school, or maybe the thought of attending another wedding just brings up all sorts of emotions that don’t make sense to anyone but yourself. But I promise, if you let down this emotional barrier and really try to understand what it means for someone else’s happiness, then at some point in time you’ll realize that being happy for them isn’t as hard as it seems.
Think about how much love your sister has shown both herself and others throughout her life: she took care of her parents when they were sick; she volunteered at an animal shelter; she helped out with community service events; she went on missions trips overseas…the list goes on. Your sister deserves every ounce of happiness possible in this world, and if something makes her happy (like getting married), then why shouldn’t YOU be excited too?
It’s a big deal when your sister gets married. Whether it’s your first experience with a wedding or not, there are many feelings to deal with. If you can manage the stress and be happy for her, it’ll make things much easier for everyone involved.